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" Record my lament, list my tears on your scroll are they
not in your record?" Psalms 56:8

What actually constitutes being masculine and being feminine?

Masculinity (taken from www.dictionaary.com)
The quality or condition of being masculine.

From what we have been brought up to know masculinity is anything but weak and girly. It has to be seen as strong, macho, full of testosterone, hard in character...or and moving further...the deep voice, with the buff bod must be the one wearing the pants, will always have it his way, stubborn, and somehow right in the end during some odd situations.

Feminity
Womanliness

What feminity? We have been made to understand, as the feminine, refined, loveable, delicate, tender, soft-spoken, sweet, gentle, caring and understanding....or... the thing in the skirt, which is always whinning away bout something being messy or dirty, and always have to be right....I'm strecthing it. But this is how masculinity and feminity has been viewed in society.

Back in maybe the late 1800s and early 1900s, when a women doesn't have her rights, she will fight for it and will then be considered macho or rough. For a guy it is perfectly normal and even more so that he should do it. These days, females are allowed to voice out their opinion and what matters to them. However, males have always been and always will be scrutinized for being lack of a man if they ever let anyone else put them down, even more so if it happens to be a woman.

Take for example, a girlfriend and boyfriend. The boy is being bugged or bullied by friends and girl stands up for him. Or say if the boy is teased by others and the girl steps in to stop it. For some it does seem heroic that the girl comes in. But for others, that might view the boy as a weakling, the one who is not dominant in the relationship. This in the ends results in further teasing by others. Oh the horror!

Or take a married couple for example. Husband goes out with friends or even office mates. Wife suddenly calls and tells him to bring home something immediately. Husband loyally and obediantly obeys and leaves company he is with to do wife's bidding. If a husband is always dominated by the wife, other men will not take him seriously. I think it is a known fact that male figures when they are overthrowned by the female figure, there seems to be an imbalance if not maybe just a funny feeling that somethins is just off.

Would one say, a male that doesn't show his masculine side, to be more feminine or to be lack of masculine?

Just the other day, i was watching American Idol and i tihnk Nadia was singing. She had chosen a sweet song but comments were given that it didn't real suit much for this competition that is all about how you perform and how good your vioce is. In any case, there was a part she had given her reasons for chosing the song which was because it represented part of her and how she wanted people to see her through that song or soemthing like that.

In anycase, because she said that X has made this conclusion as your ideals are never somethign to be expressed out and also they can never work. Here in this sense, Nadia i suppose gave the impression to my parent that she is an idealist and hope people will see it her way. Sadly the argument here is that this does not agree well with X. He believes that people's ideals should never be mixed with the 'real world. In his sense i would assume it to be the world outside home and into working life. Cause he feels that ideals such as Christianity can never work in an environment outside a church. Which i totally disagree with. I personally believe, ideals of a person can still work but they have to be worked according to the situation and to the environment they are in.

Actually, X's view is that he finds anything to do with God over the extreme and can be too gung ho. I don't see anything wrong withh having a passion for something one loves. Even better that the passion is for God. I can actually argue with X saying then him seeing everything with a money business attitude is also considered over the line. Not everything in life has to deal with money, and gaining respect from people. In fact what does it matter at all if you have all that and not be happy and not have a purpose in the end...

Think about it? Can all ideals be thrown out the window in the supposed 'real' world. Or should ideals or can i be more specific Christian ideals still live in our daily lives and not just inside a church or a religious surrounding? The whole point of learning what is in a Bible is to go out and live it. It may very well not be easy, and whoever said life is suppose to be easy. If life is easy and comfortable, one will never learn, one will never be challenged to be spurred with the difficulties in life.

To my Christian friends, let us encourage one another all the more everyday in our walk in not only our lives but also the walk with Jesus. We need it ever so often, when times seem weak and frail. With that i leave for this day's blogging.